Often, people think they are not good enough for anything. Their failures make them feel bad about themselves, and they feel like they are not capable of doing anything, and everything doesn’t feel sufficient for them. Generally, such people are dissatisfied with themselves and feel submissive among others. They feel they are unforgivable for any mistake they’ve ever done etc.
If you are one of them, you should stop being hard on yourself because it’s something that goes hand-in-hand with poor self-esteem. Negative self-judgement, self-criticism, self-punishment, self-blame and dwelling on flaws and mistakes are just a few signs that reflect you are hard on yourself. You need to stop it as soon as possible because it’s not only detrimental for your self-esteem but also your well-being. Some other reasons
why you need to stop being hard on yourself are:
• Self-dissatisfaction will never encourage you to do better or push you forward.
• When you do not feel good enough about yourself, your self-doubt can get in your way of connecting and interacting with others as you’ll feel you are not good enough to meet new people.
• Your internal monologue becomes extremely negative, and you will use the pessimistic language every time you describe your life.
• When you do not get up to your expectations, you will feel overwhelmingly disappointed about yourself.
• You will become more vulnerable to emotional stress that will lead to weaken your immune system and hence, will manifest more physical symptoms.
How can you stop being hard on yourself?
To stop being hard on yourself, you need to empower yourself, treat yourself with respect and be reasonable. Here’s how you can do it!
1. Accept your mistakes and failures
All human beings make mistakes, and no one is infallible in this world. If you commit any mistake, you don’t have to overburden yourself with guilt as it will only lead to distress and anxiety that will block your passage of moving forward in life. Learn to accept the failure and get back up again with a smile. As it is said, “All Human Life Is Some Part Failure And Some Part Achievement.” – Dalai Lama
Nobody’s life is perfect as so is not yours. Life, family, careers, relationships are hard, and everyone is struggling with them. You are not alone. Don’t forget, “You Don’t Have To Control Your Thoughts. You Have To Stop Letting Them Control You.” – Dan Millman
3. Focus on positives
When you are too hard on yourself, you won’t be able to focus on the positive things happening in your life. However, you can make conscious efforts to focus on the positivities of life. Take a time out in a day and focus on the things you like about yourself and the things you’ve done well. You can write them down on a paper or journal and keep it as a memory sake that will keep yourself reminding of your self-worth.
4. Stop comparison
You are unique in your way, and that’s something that matters. You can’t be anyone else and vice versa. So, accept yourself to be who you are and keep that focus on yourself regardless of how others are doing in comparison to you.
5. Constructive criticism
If people criticise you for anything, don’t let that criticism let you down. Instead, take your criticism as a means to prove yourself.
6. Treat yourself good
Learn to love yourself and treat yourself good no matter what. Give yourself permission to grow and learn from your mistakes and be kind for yourself. See your overall self-worth and nurture yourself as a person.
7. Don’t let your past make you weak
Your past regrets can stop you from moving in your life. If you’ve done something wrong, try to repent and improve yourself by learning from your past mistakes instead of making you weak. Recall the past events and observe what went wrong and why? Try to know how to get those things fixed now and if it isn’t possible, to let it go like the will of fortune. Blaming or torturing yourself with guilt can never bring you anything good.